Enough is Enough
When you have finally had enough chaos, drama, and confusion from your narcissist, you decide it’s time to confront them. This takes you a while, it doesn’t come easy. You’ve been trying to make this relationship work and you just can’t continue this way. You must know the truth. So you confront them. But be prepared. They will not behave like someone who is not disordered would. Don’t expect them to take responsibility for their words and actions and sincerely apologize. It’s just not going to happen. I go into detail on strategies to ignore your narcissist and protect your mental health here.
What Should You Expect?
1. Narcissists will not answer any direct questions.
They will not respond to your questions. They will start throwing in irrelevant facts known as “word salad” to confuse and distract. They will do anything to deflect from your questions to avoid taking responsibility.
2. Narcissists will use any and all forms of manipulation -Gaslighting.
They use gaslighting to manipulate the truth. They will try to convince you that you’re wrong about what happened. Their perception of reality is the only option. They make you question your own reality. They make you feel like you are going crazy.
3. Narcissists love to use projection.
Projection is a defense mechanism where basically, they're saying, “It’s not me, it’s you!” This is another tactic to deflect from the question asked. They often turn the tables trying to make themselves the victim instead of owning their actions.
4. All of this triggers a narcissistic injury which sends the narcissist into a narcissistic rage storm.
I wrote about this in my blog last week as these narcissistic rage storms and holidays go together. Narcissistic rage storms can be either explosive or silently seething. Sometimes you can see the storm coming. Hunker down, as you don’t know how long it will last.
5. The Silent Treatment.
This is the cruelest form of manipulation the narcissist uses to punish you. There is no conflict resolution as they categorically refuse to speak to you. This tactic makes you feel like you have no worth, no value. I know I felt completely alone.
I wrote about this in my book “Wrecking Ball Relationships: How to Identify, Live With or Leave the Narcissist in Your Life.”
“When I confronted my father after an argument, I didn’t recognize he was gaslighting me, at the time. I repeated back what he said and did. First, he responded, it was a misinterpretation. He wouldn’t explain what was misinterpreted or who misinterpreted what. Then he said it was a joke. This should’ve been a red flag. There was nothing funny about the subject matter or his actions. He never elaborated. He then concocted an elaborate retelling of the facts, including events that never took place. I corroborated his story with the other person involved a true innocent. The innocent, who had no skin in this game, told me none of the above three versions of my father’s responses occurred. My father changed the past to fit his recollection – he saw himself as the victim. He was always turning the tables. When he recounts that story, he only remembers it his way, believing all his own lies.”
What if the person you’ve confronted will be at your Thanksgiving table?
I’ve written many blogs about why narcissists ruin holidays and what you can do about it. These blogs are often read, reread and referenced.
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